Get her Number in Church? I'll pass...

I was reading about the speed dating comment and got some thoughts

I’d rather approach a lady in the street, than one in the church. I just think about me not being where she is in her walk.. and she not where I am. So if I still listen to rap music, last thing I’m tryna do is get her off her Lord game, u know?

And it could happen out in the street too, but you know environment is different.

Then it’s like, “Am I gonna seem like a church jigola if I tell her she’s beautiful and ask for her number?” Surely not tryna come off that way.

And I think most of all, b/c of the environment of church, we don’t always ‘keep it real.’ So I don’t want a woman acting a certain way when we’re talking just b/c she met me within the holy walls,… cuz I prolly won’t be much different than the ME I am on the outside… aside from respecting her if she doesn’t want to be exposed to certain things.

I did get a lady’s # in church a few years back, but she was visiting and I was too. And we never met up, just talked a few times. I think she had dealt with some crazies and so she was too reserved to even talk about herself.

What are yall’s thoughts?

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Permalink Reply by Tameka Jackson on October 26, 2009 at 12:57pm: So, as a personal rule mainly from bad experiences. I don't talk to guys I meet on the street. I don't know a thing about them, nobody can vouch for their character or their intentions. It's strict, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. I would however be more incline to take a number from someone in church. However, only after careful observation. Are they as committed as I am to God? Do they take their duties and responsibilities in the church seriously? How do they treat others? What type of friend are they? What is their personality and character like? Is it compatible to mine? How do they treat and regard spiritual leadership, family, women, ministry and children? I look at all of those things to determine if I would even take his number. So, it's just not that they go to church, but that is a place where I can observe them. It would be the same with work, ministries, and other settings. However, most men in my experience don't give out numbers. So, I'm glad there has been some clarity about why they don't.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Valarie D. Coleman on December 6, 2009 at 5:43pm: when you stated about people not keeping it real via in church at the time of maybe obtaining a phone is correct...

this is the type of honesty is needed but is not given as a whole.... in church or not... no one is HONEST anymore sadly...

but i wouldnt want to date someone from my church... its like dating someone on your job.... if it does not work out then it becomes weird.... and nothing should be weird when you step into the house of God..; ▶ Reply to This